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Saturday, 29 August 2009

  • The Last Kiss

    some people here know already that im leaving xanga for good. i came to xanga only because i had an e.d. and i needed an outlet where no one would find me. i hated xanga from what i knew of it, but it turned out to be pretty nice for me, being able to meet various people and learning many things along the way. to that, i credit xanga.

    when i say e.d. i mean bingeing, purging or not holding my life in my hands. i know that that in itself can actually be termed a disorder, but...that is vitally a part of me and when i have control, i dont 'need' anything or anyone. it's just very much a part of me, you see. having this control back, i thus realised that there was no longer a need for me to be on xanga anymore. a major push factor for me was the fact that xanga is a community. i dont like that, really i dont. as i said in my last post, a blog is just that, a blog, and nothing more. a site upon which i post my thoughts and musings. however, what really did it for me was the fact that the whole of xanga is so juvenile and immature...the older ones are exempt from the notion of wisdom accompanying age and so many people are so stuck in their ignorant little worlds, thinking all the while that they sit on a throne. often when i go through forums, i think, "at least i dont have to mix with these kind of people in the real world," and then it struck me, "why am i putting myself through such rubbish?" i could just...leave.

    so im leaving. i dont like communities, firstly, and i strongly detest communities composed of...well you know what xanga is composed of. having said that, i think i really did get to know quite a few people here pretty well...and you helped me. you really did. you taught me many wonderful things i am so privileged to have learned. you know who you are, you matter. i shall continue reading your blogs, im still subscribed to you, but i doubt you'll ever know im even there. at this point, i could tell you where i might be next, but you probably wont bother to check anyway...and i might not post for a long time, after which you'd probably forget about me. it's all very probable. but we'll see, yes? take care, all of you.

    love,

    diana

  • Do you want an update on my life?

    Xanga is a weird place. A weblog to me, you see, is merely a place where I can muse about things and put down my thoughts. Most people blog to tell others about their day, like they're talking to someone, but for me, that's my Diary. My Diary is not just a book, it's real...and I tell it everything. Even with friends, I dont often use conversations to tell people about my life or my day. Sure once in a while I do, but it's not natural for me to give them an update on my life, unless I'm really tired and feel like crying (yesterday) and absolutely need someone to talk to. (Josephine) So Xanga is a bit odd to me, and a little more than what other blogging sites are because ultimately, it's a community. Over here, users are not just other users, these users become...friends, or close to, at least, and it struck me that these people out here might actually be interested in my life, might care for me in that way and actually want to know what's up. Funny.

    Now, the only person who ever comes close to my Diary is Luke. I tell Luke everything and anything. More like, I can tell Luke everything and anything, we're on a very deep personal level and he's the only person other than my Diary that I'm comfortable with doing so. Thus, e-mails to him (since he's in the States) give a very powerful insight into what's going on in my life, how I feel and the likes. In fact, I tend to think that e-mails to him are akin to reading my Diary, sort of. So I could have chosen an e-mail from me to him and written it down here, but...it's not in my taste to do that, I find it far too impersonal and personal- I'd rather write from scratch and talk to you, my Reader, rather than simply pasting a conversation I had and giving it to you. That's very impersonal, I find. And then also it's personal, for it's a conversation between me and him, and there are just some things I don't feel comfortable about telling the rest of the world. 

    Well then, so that's a slice of me for your tasting. I hope it goes good with a cup of tea? Oh you silly people, we're all non-eaters anyway.

Tuesday, 25 August 2009

  • Ramble-bush

    shites i deleted the empty entry you girls clicked on. it was for artistic effect. and also that the title carried the weight of the emptiness of my post. empty can be heavy. yes, it can be very heavy.

Saturday, 22 August 2009

  • crying

    i want to turn to my diary at this point, i want to cry, but i cant accept the way i feel yet, and if i cant, how am i to put them in words down into the pages of my life? i feel like shit. i feel annoyed, above all, deeply angry, so angry with myself. yesterday my calorie limit was 200 and i was doing so well....i calculated everything so meticulously and i had about 132 calories left that i could use up by the end of the day, for which i planned to eat an apple and have a chocolate beverage. and as i get out of the car to go home, mom says to me, "(my sister)'s pizza is there, have it." i didnt want it, i swear to you, i didnt want it. i wasnt even fucking hungry. i just wanted the apple so badly. and yet i had it. somehow i felt like i was obliged to. (silly thing, di, no one is obliged to do anything) and so i was eating the pizza and every bite felt like a poniard plunge into my heart, throughout the entire experience of eating that pizza, my head was going, "i dont want to do this, i dont want to do this, hurry, hurry up, let this excruciation be over..."

    it was torturous. i just didnt want to be eating that pizza, i didnt want to be eating that pizza at all, no matter how good it was. and i felt so slammed after that, i felt so annoyed, because it'd been two days of deviation from the Gameplan already and this was the third. i was just at the point where i wanted to stick to the Gameplan and not deviate, i was sick of deviation, i had had enough, i just wanted to stay put and stick by it. but the other thing was that...it was so annoying because i had carefully calculated everything, everything was just right, i went through all this trouble of counting calories and then i blew it all with a slice of pizza. a slice of pizza i neither wanted nor had the hunger for. and i feel so angry now, i feel like crying, i feel so hopeless like i've lost my rein on life, like the control is out of my hand...i feel like i could never stick to the Gameplan and that i will never be skinny, that i will keep on making excuses, that i will keep on allowing other people to rule my life for me rather than me putting my foot down firmly and ruling my own.

    i feel annoyed because yesterday didnt have to go so badly for me. i could have written in my diary last night about the things i was bursting to say all day rather than lying down in bed, cringing and thinking about my ex. i feel annoyed because if not for yesterday, i wouldnt have to deal with these feelings today. because if not for yesterday, i would have tucked myself into bed rather than lying down haphazardly horizontally across my bed with the door shut and no ventilation. i would have had a good sleep...

    above all, i feel like crying. and my ex is sick and i want to go up to him and make him feel better...but i cant. i feel like crying, dear girls, i feel like crying. but no tears will fall from my hard eyes.

Thursday, 20 August 2009

  • Of Utmost Significance

    on one of my posts, i was asked, "why thirty-six?" and indeed, aware that i do have some regular readers to this blog who are now probably acquainted with my want of that number, i think i ought to have a little write-up about just why thirty-six.

    firstly, the stats: while thirty-six kilos may seem like a scarily thin number to be at on the scale, i am small. completely small. im 1 m 47, and that translates to about four feet ten. isnt that tiny? most girls you know will be at least about five foot. still, having said that, even for me, thirty-six kilos, or 79.2 lbs, is a bit thin. it comes to a bmi of 16.6. in my admittedly rather dark mind, i happen to think that's perfect. i happen to see that as dramatically thin, but not so that i will be too weak to live. 15 would be scary, though. there i'd never go. (or who knows, i might, if anorexia finds my heart) im 47 now, and i have about ten kilos to lose, but that's not too hard. i've lost that before. yes, i've been chubby for a while. two years, to be precise. of course the larger american public (what a pun) will tell you, "who says you cant be big and beautiful? who says you cant feel good when you're fat?" i'll tell you now, that from first-hand experience, you cant. firstly, to maintain such fatness, you'd have to eat a lot- and not the right kind of food either. this is unhealthy. because you're eating such unhealthy food, your internal system will be clogged up, not cleansed. this clogging will make you feel mucked up and gross and generally uncomfortable. (or who knows, you might be so used to it, you wont even notice it- but having been on both ends of the spectrum, as well as in the middle, i certainly did notice this) and i dont know about other fat people, but this is what i faced being fat-

    a. i couldnt cross my legs properly because my thighs were so heavy. when i did, there would be a red mark on my knee where my other leg had been resting...precisely because my thighs were so heavy

    b. as mentioned, when you eat as much as that- and unhealthy food too -you are going to be emitting a lot more farts. it's stinko. i'd never farted so much in my life until i became fat

    c. you will generally feel more hot and sweaty. i was sweating all the time, feeling gross and uncomfortable, my armpits were stinking, i suddenly had body odour, the back of my thighs would be wet...

    d. because you're carrying so much extra weight around, it's a lot harder to move yourself around. climbing up stairs can be such a great ordeal

    so being fat, let me tell you, out of personal experience, those liars are only sour grapes, it's impossible to feel better fat than slim. (before you get at me, note the word 'slim' rather than 'thin') your body wants to be slim, lithe and healthy, not fat and overweight. they say genetics, genetics, genetics, let me tell you that genetics cannot predispose you to fatness, genetics only dictates the frame of your body structure, small-boned or big-boned, naturally thin due to a high metabolism or needing some work to keep your weight there. it's ridiculous to suggest that a person can never be slim or at a healthy weight simply due to genetics. people have taken this overboard. the human body- just like any other animal -was designed to be healthy and at a weight becoming of it. not fat.

    anyway, so back to me, yes, while i have listed all this about being fat, i do know of the detriments of being thin- there's the feeling cold all the time and therefore having to carry a jacket around with you, but i can live with that. so why thirty-six, then, when 39, 40 or 42 would be such better numbers? (at those numbers im simply healthy, graceful and lithe, rather than kind of thin) 36 carries for me a lot of significance. you may know this already, but when i was twelve, i became slightly anorexic...my lowest weight was about 35 or 36. when i reached 36, i was thrilled...i remembered how when i was ten, i was thirty-two kilos and then one day, perhaps about six months later or so, weighing myself, i found myself having fast-forwarded to 36, which, i thought was overweight for my size. (i was indeed a little chunkier than need be at eleven years of age) that experience had jolted me, even scarred me slightly, so when i was twelve and the needle pointed at thirty-six, i felt...good. more than just good, very good. it signified just how thin and awesome i was. that i was able to turn back the clock in some certain way and face it squarely in the face.

    of course even then, thirty-six was slightly too thin for me (i stopped growing for many years after i turned twelve, so i was about the same height then - i assure you this has nothing to do with my body weight, i have always been small) and a nice weight then meant something along the lines of 38 or 39, which, when i was thirteen, i fell to. still, even then, even though i was healthy and slim with a completely enviable body, i always wished secretly in my heart to go back to thirty-six...i just liked it. when you're thin and supreme and the whole world is in your hands. it's what thirty-six signifies and means to me, and then the emotional significance and memories attached to it too. the memories of, for example, being so thin and in control. of exercising like crazy and saying no to food. of feeling awesome precisely because i was that thin.

    so i was about 39 for most of the time, the only time i ever went back to 36 was when i went for camp and very unintentionally lost a lot of weight...funnily enough, i didnt actually like it. at that point, the idea of thirty-six had then been far-removed from me and i barely cared anymore, and i didnt find my jeans hanging off me pleasing, i found it revolting. i remember checking out my lack of a bum in the mirror and thinking, "how funny if this had happened just a few years ago, i would have been so very pleased. but not now, not anymore." no, i dont want to be that person who said that. as a person, comparing to the other spheres my soul has been to, i think i prefer myself when i was either hankering after thirty-six or at thirty-six.

    thirty-six has come to resemble a nest for me, my resting-place, where i belong. it's where i keep on going back to, where, when i am there, i know i am safe. it makes me feel comfortable. and i just like the number, you know? i mean, thirty-six is the very lowest i can go without being so thin people would call the doctor. thirty-five would, actually, but that is a bit extreme. i want to be just thin. just thin enough, living on edge. ask me why, no particular reason, other than...i like it. i just do. it's only a bmi of 16.6 it's not that bad. underweight, but whatever. that's the whole point, innit?

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